Communication From the Other Side

 

As I sit and always try to gather my thoughts a strange thing always happens to me or maybe it happens to everyone who tries to put into words and on a piece of paper the experience when you have a realization of spirit and who we really are.

 

This past weekend we laid the ashes to rest of my sister-in-law in the mountains of North Carolina. To begin to say that it was the most beautiful experience in such a magnificent place does not even begin to describe it.

 

My niece rented a 5-bedroom house overlooking the mountains and my husband's side of the family all gathered for the weekend.  From the moment we arrived we began to be gifted with the beauty of the messages that I knew were the embodiment of my sister-in-law. Grandmother Parisha always teaches that we are not the body, we are spirit and energy in the altar called a body. Most recently I have been having moments of awareness of this truth and it has been really amazing. It is also in the form of receiving communication with loved ones who have passed.

 

As we arrived and were at sunset and settling in, we were visited by a butterfly that danced around each one of us and seemed to just hover in the middle of our circle as if visiting. It was not your normal butterfly, it was a Monarch, really big and beautiful.  I knew it was her communicating. I told everyone it was her and all could feel her energy. As we sat down to dinner later that evening and began to pray and bless the food. The lights in the house began to flicker.  We all knew!  Many of us could feel her presence.

 

The next day of the spreading of her ashes as we hiked up into the area that my niece had designated there was an amazing bubble of love that I felt that surrounded us. We were together as Family and to me this has always been an important part of my life.  To spend time with my grown children and see their interactions throughout the whole weekend with their cousins and the rest of the family was a very proud moment for me as their mother. I am in love!  My children have grown up to be amazing individuals. As we prepared the smoke bowl for the ceremony as Grandmother Parisha has taught me, each one of us said a prayer into the herb that we placed into the bowl. We honored Sage the feminine aspect, Cedar the masculine aspect and Sweet grass the balance of the two, Lavender to represent the beauty that my sister-in-law always carried herself as.  The smoke beautifully took our prayers into the wind.

As each one of us took turns taking a handful of ashes to the wind. I watched how the wind seemed to come and caress the ashes. It was such an amazing thing to observe. These things as I write I realize I really did see this. Because what the mind tends to do as Grandmother Parisha has taught me is it tends

to deny what you really saw.  We are programmed to believe very differently that death is something totally different. She has always said " Death is just the changing of the garment." Our loved ones who have passed continue to be but in different form. Yes, we miss their physical presence but they continue to be with us in energy and spirit.  I really felt and understood that this weekend. After we finished the ceremony at exactly 12:12, once again I felt a synchronicity that the number 12 was signifying a year in a cycle of life as we measure time in the 12-month calendar. Her cycle had been complete her body altar ashes had been laid to rest.

 

It was time for lunch as we wrapped things up at the site that we were at, so everyone was hungry. My niece googled restaurants near us and the first restaurant that came up was “Bellas" ten minutes away!  As she told us we all burst out into tears because you see my niece's name for my sister-in-law was "Bella".  Of course, we knew it was her communicating. So, we had lunch at Bellas an Italian restaurant and it was delicious!

 

That night as we sat at sunset on the deck overlooking the mountain. We were visited by cardinal. It came on deck and landed close to us and seemed to be looking right at us and cocked its head. Grandmother Parisha has taught me that Cardinal is woman's medicines. My sister-in-law was a very elegant and feminine woman.  We finished an absolutely beautiful day and traditional Colombian meal that my kids and I made and dessert by the fire pit.  The icing on the cake to a spectacular day that my words don't even do it justice.

 

The rest of the weekend was amazing being with family laughing and cooking and bonding together on hikes and around the camp fire. So much appreciation for all that occurred this weekend and for the communication from the other side.

 

Yes they are there!

 

 

By MAJ

Cannot Just Get Over It?

 

Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha shares, “So as you move through time as an eternal Being, you need to Observe the Body Mind and see where you determine yourself the God Within.”

 

 

Most people carry around feelings or thoughts that are stuck in their system. Thoughts and feelings that seem to be on automatic pilot, looping over the years and being acted out with different people.  This happens when there are the old unprocessed hurts that simply will not budge for example that boyfriend that broke up 20 years ago, that person who took sexual privilege. As the years go by, life can add to the list of hurts and we can end up spiraling down emotionally and physically. Often thoughts of the hurt are long gone and yet the lingering feeling sits there waiting to be triggered by the next person who shows any sign of acting in the same way as that original hurt. An example of this is a child who never felt anyone paid attention or loved them- perhaps their parents worked so hard that they were often left alone. And as an adult it can feel very painful if their partner seems distant or inattentive.

 

 

Old hurt sits stored in the nervous system, brain and body and when the new situation happens, these old feelings can be triggered and come to the surface. To the person it seems like all the feelings and thoughts belong to that new situation. It looks like it is all about the person who is in front of them acting that way, such as the husband who didn’t remember the anniversary, or the friend who doesn’t seem to call. While some of the emotion may relate to the current situation, they can be fueled by an underground stream of past unprocessed emotion from old memories and hurts. This can feel quite intense and confusing both for the person it is being directed at and the one triggered.

 

 

You can even be someone who smiles and laughs and plays the social star and entertainer on the surface and yet privately feel angry, low, depressed and or anxious. It is this private, internal realm that deeply matters when it comes to be free and happy. It is the feelings that sit below the surface.

 

 

Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha says, “All is so beautiful when you look for it. It is always residing just there waiting for you to see, not just looking but “seeing”.

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Sometimes it can be the smallest trigger in our current life that seems to “derail” us. This is because memories that have some similarity get stored together in the unconscious. They can join together and build up big bank of emotion that sits outside conscious awareness. We may have developed fantastic defenses that keep these emotions at bay so that we can get on with day-to-day life.

 

 

Then one day something happens to add to the bank and our defenses cannot hold back the intensity. All the emotions and thoughts from all the previous times are firing off and overwhelm the nervous system.  Perhaps it was the last boss who spoke to their employer in a demeaning way that brought back the flood of overwhelming hurt from previous experiences of being disrespected. Perhaps the bank of emotions is made up of indiscretions we have done to others. Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha tells us, “To See yourself in All. AS such there is no enemy.”  

 

 

There are many events that happen to us in life that we naturally work through and let go of. It is often thought that the process of sleeping and dreaming during REM sleep is when the brain naturally processes the day’s events and emotions.

 

   

In order to find out if you are holding on to old hurt you simply need to look at patterns of how you reacted in life. What are the things that commonly hurt you? Are there any themes? Think of the last time someone really upset you. When you think of that notice any thoughts you are having about them. And as you think that what do you feel it is saying about you? For example – they are rude and nasty. While this logically says more about them then me, when I tune into the feelings it makes me feel disrespected. And when I ask myself what does that mean about me from within the feeling?  It feels like I am not valuable. So, the next phase is to tune into that memory and go back earlier in life. Are there any other memories that come up?

   

 

Another way to do it is, think about old memories that have hurt you in the past. When you think about those old memories do you feel anything in your body? Remember this is not an exercise of logic. Logically you may very well be over it. It is when you bring up the memory, and even find an image for the worst part of the memory. When you tune in and notice the negative belief about yourself within the memory and then see if there is any emotional charge on it. If there is charge on it then this memory is a part of the bank of emotions that fuels your reactions to life today and holds you back from just getting over it. Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha lets us know over and over again “What you think about you bring about.”  

 

  

When you recognize any of these signs there is a lot you can do about it. Many of the mind and body therapies that involve going into the subconscious and bringing to consciousness these old emotions can be helpful. Although simply going in and remembering is not enough. In fact, doing this can be damaging if the emotions are not discharged and can leave a person retraumatized. One particular therapy is very effective in my experience for fast tracking the letting go process. EMDR therapy stands for eye movement desensitization reprocessing therapy. It uses the brain’s natural healing mechanism similar to what occurs in REM sleep to gain access these old memories and allow them to integrate into the nervous system and brain as wisdom and learning while discharging the emotional charge attached to the memory. In 20 years in the mental health field this is one of the most powerful processes I have come across for letting go of old hurts.

 

 

 

When we do ‘get over it’, the end result is being present in the moment as it is now. Not as it was, or how it may be perceived through tainted lenses. When situations are met fully in the present moment, they can be met with

can often stay emotionally regulated and present enough to handle the situation effectively.

 

 

"Every circumstance, every event, and every meeting of every person - everything that you live- is because of what you have been thinking about, wondering about, pondering, remembering, observing, considering and imagining…You are literally thinking your life into being.” Ester Hicks

 

 

Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha lets all know that we matter and the universe is listening to what we are broadcasting.

 

-MAL