Communication From the Other Side

 

As I sit and always try to gather my thoughts a strange thing always happens to me or maybe it happens to everyone who tries to put into words and on a piece of paper the experience when you have a realization of spirit and who we really are.

 

This past weekend we laid the ashes to rest of my sister-in-law in the mountains of North Carolina. To begin to say that it was the most beautiful experience in such a magnificent place does not even begin to describe it.

 

My niece rented a 5-bedroom house overlooking the mountains and my husband's side of the family all gathered for the weekend.  From the moment we arrived we began to be gifted with the beauty of the messages that I knew were the embodiment of my sister-in-law. Grandmother Parisha always teaches that we are not the body, we are spirit and energy in the altar called a body. Most recently I have been having moments of awareness of this truth and it has been really amazing. It is also in the form of receiving communication with loved ones who have passed.

 

As we arrived and were at sunset and settling in, we were visited by a butterfly that danced around each one of us and seemed to just hover in the middle of our circle as if visiting. It was not your normal butterfly, it was a Monarch, really big and beautiful.  I knew it was her communicating. I told everyone it was her and all could feel her energy. As we sat down to dinner later that evening and began to pray and bless the food. The lights in the house began to flicker.  We all knew!  Many of us could feel her presence.

 

The next day of the spreading of her ashes as we hiked up into the area that my niece had designated there was an amazing bubble of love that I felt that surrounded us. We were together as Family and to me this has always been an important part of my life.  To spend time with my grown children and see their interactions throughout the whole weekend with their cousins and the rest of the family was a very proud moment for me as their mother. I am in love!  My children have grown up to be amazing individuals. As we prepared the smoke bowl for the ceremony as Grandmother Parisha has taught me, each one of us said a prayer into the herb that we placed into the bowl. We honored Sage the feminine aspect, Cedar the masculine aspect and Sweet grass the balance of the two, Lavender to represent the beauty that my sister-in-law always carried herself as.  The smoke beautifully took our prayers into the wind.

As each one of us took turns taking a handful of ashes to the wind. I watched how the wind seemed to come and caress the ashes. It was such an amazing thing to observe. These things as I write I realize I really did see this. Because what the mind tends to do as Grandmother Parisha has taught me is it tends

to deny what you really saw.  We are programmed to believe very differently that death is something totally different. She has always said " Death is just the changing of the garment." Our loved ones who have passed continue to be but in different form. Yes, we miss their physical presence but they continue to be with us in energy and spirit.  I really felt and understood that this weekend. After we finished the ceremony at exactly 12:12, once again I felt a synchronicity that the number 12 was signifying a year in a cycle of life as we measure time in the 12-month calendar. Her cycle had been complete her body altar ashes had been laid to rest.

 

It was time for lunch as we wrapped things up at the site that we were at, so everyone was hungry. My niece googled restaurants near us and the first restaurant that came up was “Bellas" ten minutes away!  As she told us we all burst out into tears because you see my niece's name for my sister-in-law was "Bella".  Of course, we knew it was her communicating. So, we had lunch at Bellas an Italian restaurant and it was delicious!

 

That night as we sat at sunset on the deck overlooking the mountain. We were visited by cardinal. It came on deck and landed close to us and seemed to be looking right at us and cocked its head. Grandmother Parisha has taught me that Cardinal is woman's medicines. My sister-in-law was a very elegant and feminine woman.  We finished an absolutely beautiful day and traditional Colombian meal that my kids and I made and dessert by the fire pit.  The icing on the cake to a spectacular day that my words don't even do it justice.

 

The rest of the weekend was amazing being with family laughing and cooking and bonding together on hikes and around the camp fire. So much appreciation for all that occurred this weekend and for the communication from the other side.

 

Yes they are there!

 

 

By MAJ

When Memory is Not Real

Salvador Dali once said: "The difference between false memories and true ones is the same as for jewels: it is always the false ones that look the most real, the most brilliant."

“The only thing we ever deal with is thought, and thoughts can be changed! Regardless what the situation is, it is only outer effects of inner thoughts! The power is this moment and you choose what it is!” ~Pa’Ris’Ha Taylor

Elizabeth F. Loftus, a well-known professor and researcher in the field of psychology and “the creation and nature of false memories” has shown in her research how memories can be distorted, how people can be influenced by information after an event has occurred. Her experiments involve exposing people to outside influences of suggestion after witnessing a video, and being questioned about their observations, for example.

According to an article on Businessinsider.com, Dec 19, 2017 by Lindsay Dodgson, “Neuroscientists have looked at brain scans of people having real memories and false memories to see if there's a difference. In one study from Daegu University in South Korea, 11 people were asked to read lists of words that fall into categories, like ‘farm animals.’" Then they were asked whether specific words appeared on the original lists, while functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) detected changes in blood flow to different areas of the brain.

“When study participants had confidence in their answers and were correct, blood flow increased to the hippocampus — the region of the brain that is important for memory. If they were confident in their answer but were wrong, which happened about 20% of the time, the frontoparietal region lit up — the area associated with ‘a sense of familiarity’."

Now consider how the human brain can influence memory by going over and over an event that is influenced by a high emotional response. According to Dr. Joe Dispenza, in Evolve Your Brain, “We can make thought more real than anything else.”

The way we think affects the body because every thought creates a biochemical reaction in the brain, which allows for a corresponding feeling in the body. There is a continuous cycle of thinking creating feeling and then feeling creating thinking.

 

“All that you perceive is a hologram and the materialization of your thoughts,” shares Pa’Ris’Ha Taylor. “Do you like what you See? If not, change your mind.” The thoughts, vibration and frequency that you emit returns back to you an exact reflection.

Each time we “re-live” a highly charged emotional experience, we literally cause the brain to fire in the exact sequences and patterns as the original event. This firing and wiring of the brain to the past only serves to reinforce those circuits and create even more hard-wired circuits. The emotions can become even more heightened thus creating a distortion of the “memory” of actual events.

 

When there is an extreme emotional charge to an event or experience in our life, and we continue to live it over and over again, recreating the same chemistry in the body-mind, there is the opportunity for distortion of the memory of that event, heightened by the memorized emotions. Because we tend to “re-live” especially traumatic events or uncomfortable or unhappy experiences from our past, those “memories” become distorted by our emotional state.

This unconscious repetition trains the body to remember that emotional state, equal to or better than the conscious mind does. When the body remembers better than the conscious mind, then the body is the mind. Our feelings become the way we think, and we can’t think greater than how we feel. At this point the body (feelings) controls the mind (thoughts).

Only 5% of who we are is conscious, and 95% of who we are is subconscious, or even unconscious. So, body-feelings is that 95 % of memorized negativity, while mind-thoughts is the 5%.

“Think of your body as the unconscious mind. It is so objective that it doesn’t know the difference between the emotions that are created from experiences in your external world and those you fabricate in your internal world by thought alone. To the body they are the same.” -Joe Dispenza, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself.

 

Pa’Ris’Ha Taylor reminds us that all is energy. The "here now" that we are looking at is a series of images that we have created from our memory bank, because the physical action of looking is actually a black hole. The iris is a hole that acts as a lens. The optic nerve broadcasts electrical signals that play across our eyes like a movie on a screen. This is what we have been calling reality – past experience. Those electrical signals are pulled from our memory bank. We are not present at that moment.

The question of the accuracy of memory has more recently become of interest in the criminal justice system.  According to an article in Wired, “False memories and false confessions: the psychology of imagined crimes” Julia Shaw, a criminal psychologist at the London South Bank University, conducts research to study how false memories arise in the brain and its implications to the criminal justice system. She has found human memories to be susceptible to suggestion, malleable and “often unintentionally false.”

"False memories are everywhere," she says. "In everyday situations we don't really notice or care that they're happening. We call them mistakes, or say we misremember things." In the criminal-justice system, however, they can have severe consequences.

Elizabeth Loftus, a cognitive psychologist at the University of California, Irvine, had been studying memory for more than 20 years prior to 1990. In one of Loftus’ research studies, she concluded that "The key is suggestibility. Often, false memories develop because there's exposure to external suggestive information. Or, people can suggest things to themselves - autosuggestion. People draw inferences about what might have happened. Those solidify and act like false memories."

Joe Dispenza in Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself gives this advice: “Warning: when feelings become the means of thinking, or if we cannot think greater than how we feel, we can never change. To change is to think greater than how we feel. To change is to act greater than the familiar feelings of the memorized self.”

Thus, in order to move out of living in the past, and being boxed in by “memories” – real or unreal – is to challenge the thoughts and feelings that come with them. A vital skill that Pa’Ris’Ha Taylor teaches to help separate our thoughts from “ghosts from the past” and what’s truly our inner self, our true self, is to simply ask, “Who’s talking?”

 

Ask yourself: “Is this true?” “Is this just what I’m thinking and believing while I’m experiencing these feelings?”

Rather than continuing to replay old scenarios – move beyond the “old memorized self.” Knowing that memory is more an illusion than a reality, it is possible. The act of coming to present time is absolutely vital to moving from victim to victor.

All we ever have is this moment. What we do with our emotions, memories, thoughts and actions, right now, is all that matters and is all that creates matter. ~Pa’Ris’Ha Taylor

 

-DJA


References:
Evolve Your Brain, Joe Dispenza, DC; ©2007, Health Communications, Inc.

Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, Joe Dispenza, DC; ©2012, Hay House, Inc.

https://www.businessinsider.com/science-of-false-memories-2017  Dec 19, 2017, Lindsay Dodgson

https://www.psychologistworld.com/memory/false-memories-questioning-eyewitness-testimony False Memories: How false memories are created and can affect our ability to recall events.

https://www.wired.co.uk/article/false-memory-syndrome-false-confessions-memories, Emma Bryce, 7-22-2017 False memories and false confessions: the psychology of imagined crimes